3. Are you emotional and is your body reacting to feelings? Then a more spiritual style of massage might help more than a remedial therapist recommending you stretch.
Maybe try a kahuna massage which can involve toning into the body (using the voice to massage your muscles, sounds very hippie but many people love it!)
4. Is your stress showing up as a blinding headache? Sometimes headaches come from stress, sometimes with the muscles in your neck being locked up tighter than Fort Knox.
If you get a massage for a headache, mention this to the therapist and she may work on the muscles especially on the occipital bone (that bone that runs along the base of the skull). There are also muscles from the back that attach along here, and so releasing these points may also help unlock your back muscles.
And sometimes your body tricks you and the pain from muscles that are tight in one part of your body shows up as pain in another part, which massage therapists label with the fancy term referred pain. If you have a headache and find your therapist spending time massaging your back, and you are lying there thinking “no that’s not where its at!” then this maybe why.